Dance Like No One's Watching

A good friend shared this with me a while ago.
True enough, this is exactly what we all tend to do. We always expect that things will change for the better and we always save the things we treasure for that special occasion. We fail to understand that everyday we live is a special day.

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We always convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, than another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are. After that we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. we will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We always tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together. when we get a nice car, and are able to go on a nice vocation when we retire. The truth is, there's no better time than right now. If not now, when? our life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to ourselves and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred Souza. He said: "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin-real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life." This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment that you have.

And remember that time waits for no one. So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school; until you get married, until you get divorced; until you have kids; until you retire; until you get a new car or home; until spring; until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy...

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. So, work like you don't need money, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one's watching.

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知心难寻

在这地方工作也有8年之久了，这8年里也看到了各种品性的人；结识了一些交心的朋友，也看清了一些人丑恶的真面目。被朋友背叛对我来说已不是新鲜事。或许用“背叛”这两个字太言重了，或许只是我一厢情愿，那些人心里根本从来没把我当成真心朋友，那又何来背叛之说？

有些人说朋友就是要互相利用的，各取所需，没什么不对。这个观念真让人心寒，我无法苟同！

我并不是那种交游广阔，朋友满天下的人。朋友好交，知心难寻，我重质不重量。可以信任，可以谈心的朋友少之又少。日久见人心，好多原本以为是知己的好朋友，到后来都露出了可怕的真面目。她们让我心痛生气的所作所为，不尽让我怀疑我阅人的能力。我对人是不是太友善了？我是不是太没有提防之心，太容易相信人了？我想我该自我检讨。

掏心掏肺地真心对待，换来的却是锥心之痛。我愤恨她，对她伤心失望，可是更气自己太单纯太愚蠢。

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Life's Lessons

Words of wisdom...

- Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio -

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about..

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ' In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back..

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

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蔡淳佳 - 庆幸有你爱我

让我非常感动的一首歌。
确实，很多时候我们都被生活里琐碎的事蒙蔽了，就这样忘了生命里最重要的是什么。很多事情都不是理所当然的。愿大家都要学会珍惜身边的每一个人。

失去和拥有刹那的感动
人生有时候像一场梦
醒着的时候睁开了双眸
不如意的很多

朋友和情人来的来走的走
反反复复寻寻觅觅为了什么
要多少时间才能够了解
其实有你就足够

握着你的手走过快乐和难过
黑夜白昼我们都曾经拥有
人生是没有定律的一种节奏
不如用心去感受

快乐的一刻胜过永恒的难过
黑夜过后就有日出和日落
两个人走不会寂寞
每一刻都会珍惜都会把握
庆幸有你爱我

失去和拥有泪水和笑容
人生有时候像一场梦
累了的时候闭上的双眸
谁在回忆上游

多少的朋友来的来走的走
聚散从来都不给任何的理由
转过身以后才忽然感受
你一直都在背后

握着你的手走过快乐和难过
黑夜白昼每个人都会拥有
人生是没有定律的一种节奏
不如用心去感受

快乐的一刻胜过永恒的难过
黑夜过后就有日出和日落
两个人走不会寂寞
每一刻都会珍惜都会把握
庆幸有你爱我

握着你的手走过快乐和难过
黑夜白昼每个人都会拥有
人生是没有定律的一种节奏
不必在乎得太多

快乐的一刻胜过永恒的难过
黑夜过后就有日出和日落
只要和你一起度过
人生没几人懂我懂得把握
庆幸有你爱我

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如果时光倒流

有人捎来消息，有个朋友又添丁了。原本已有个女儿的他，现在又多了一个儿子。这对我来说，已经是个很圆满的家庭。我心里的感觉是很参杂的，为他感到开心，可是却也很羡慕妒忌。

这个男人曾经是我的追求者，可是我没有选择他。想想，这应该是他的福气。如果今天我是他的妻子，他岂能拥有这么美满的家庭呢？老公要不是娶了我，他何许承受这一切无奈。对其他夫妇看来轻而易举，理所当然的事；对我俩来说却难如登天，也是奇迹。

现在的我身心疲惫，身材走样，信心全无。活着也已成一种累赘；是对自己的累赘，也是别人的负担。我不喜欢怨天尤人，可是我想不到其他方法让我面对。我不断告诉自己只要尽人事听天命就可以，不要强求了。没有孩子就算了，老公到最后如果选择离开我也罢；这是我的命。可是为什么我心里还是有那么一点点的疙瘩，为什么我还是觉得这么苦，为什么我就是无法完完全全地放下。

如果时光倒流，让我从新走过，我想我会选择单身。何必累人累己呢？

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